We Are Army Girlfriends

Deployed <3

Our story is magical.  We went to High School together, lost touch for over 5 years, reconnected 3 months ago and now he is deployed in Afghanistan.  Im desperate, he is out there in dangerous missions.  I cant wait for him to return and start our lives together.  We both want this so much.  This is my first deployment… his 5th and last.  im so scared, just wanted to reach out, express myself and share my story with all you ladies.  We are all going through the same, and at times it does feel like im alone in this.

7 days

been exactly seven days since i last had contact with you. i write i pray i wish i hope. and nothing happens. i dont know if youre ok or not or if your limbs are still there or not and i cant even start talking about me worryng about the multiple fractures and cuts and bruises and infections you might have. worries me sick. sick. sick.

i feel real sick.

Email to home

“kaitlyn,
hello love how are you today? for me today has been a great
day. hearing from you made it that way. i want to tell you that you
are a very special girl and inform you on how beautiful you are. i
remember the first time i met you, which i’ll never forget. since then we have been close and i would have it no other way, i wanna keep it
that way. i’ll be home soon but not soon enough we both know that. i assure you that when i get home we will see each other almost 24/7. as of now im counting every day up to Sept 1st that’s the day i plan on being back on American soil. Steve will be bringing my phone so you should expect
a phone call around that date and many more before then. i miss you babydoll and i hope your taking care of yourself, ill be taking care
of you when i get home. you are a very beautiful girl with amazing eyes and soft lips. see you soon but not soon enough babydoll. I love you.
love, justin.”
-These make my day bearable. I miss my soldier more than anything.

The Big Bang

My boyfriend and i have been together since i was a freshman in high school and he was a senior, the moment he told me he decided to join the army, my heart sank, i knew that it was a dream of his but knowing that he would be a world a way made me hurt more than anything, Its been five years since the then, And this is his second deployment, Although he only has three months left, I still worry that anything could happen to him and i have a big secret that I have been dying to tell him. But i want to wait till he comes home, because i don’t want him to worry about it while he is over there when he has far more to worry about. About two weeks after he left for Afganistan I found out i was pregnant. We will be expecting a baby come mid december, and i really need help in figuring out a great way to surprise him with the news, any ideas?

How do you know its gonna be ok?

I am, amongst many others, soon to be an army girlfriend. My boyfriend leaves in 2 weeks. I just have some questions. 
1) How do you know you are gonna be strong enough
2) If you feel yourself slipping away, and the stress starting to change your mood, how do you bring yourself back.
3) And how do you deal with your emotions.

My boyfriend and I are extremely open with each other. I tell him everything that is on my mind and all the feelings I have. Were amazing at problem solving and comforting each other. But now its different. I feel that if I tell him the worries Im having it will make him nervous that I wont stick around. He is my bestfriend and now I feel that I cant even tell him cause I dont want him to be worried. I feel he already has enough stress about leaving. I should be the last person adding on to that. :( 

Ive been told before that is worth and trust me, with this guy, I know it will be. But in the moment, right now, its painful to think he wont be around.

Thoughts, advise? 

The shoe is on the other foot (ON, Canada)

Thanks so much for people replying to my question. 3 weeks is coming so fast and Im starting to feel a lot more confident that things are gonna work out. But now by bf is starting to get really nervous about going. He says that he just wants to be with me and doesnt want to loose me, but I know this is something he has always wanted to do and I dont want him to change his mind on his life long dream. How can I make him feel confident that Im not going anywhere. I tell him every day how much I love him and how proud of him I am. He just has a big heart and doesn’t want to go to the army and leave things behind…. :( Im running out of things to say!!! 

In response to the submission, I just wanted to say that words can only make somebody feel confident for so long. In order for him to believe you, he’s going to have to see it. So throughout this process show him that you love him and you’re not going anywhere. Think about all the letters you can send him, the care packages, use little creative things as reminders of the love you guys have. There are moments of doubt where he’ll wonder if he made the right decision of joining the army. Let him know you will support with whatever decision he makes. - Jada

Suggestion to “New Girl”

My bf has been gone since January and I have 8 more weeks to wait…. I have been keeping a journal for him. I don’t write everyday and sometimes its been too hard to put my feelings in words but it helps. I feel so much better afterwards not having to hold all of it in. My best friend has been here for me but she doesn’t understand. One day at a time :)

In reply to your “New girl” post 

Hey my boyfriends been deployed for 2 and a half months now, another 4 and a half to go so i know how you feel. Towards the start it was the worst going from seeing him all the time to nothing but it does get easier slowly the good days out weight the down ones especially if you keep busy working seeing friends ect so dont worry it does get easier and good luck:)

New Girl

My boyfriend just left for BCT 4 days ago. He won’t be back for 5 months and I honestly don’t know how I am going to make it. It’s only been 4 days and I miss him more then I ever thought i could. If anyone has any advice that would be extremely helpful! 

Submission! : Letting go of the past… & looking into the future.