It does! Not too busy, he thinks you forgot about him. But enough, so that you’re not wallowing away in your bedroom. I mean hang out with your friends like normal. Pick up a new hobby. Make him care packages, make him gifts, make crafts in general. A lot of that stuff helps.
4 years! It’s lovely to see young couples last so long :) well if you’ve been dating that long, I don’t think distance would ruin that. Just check out the pros and cons. Being an army SO isn’t for everybody but I’m sure you can do it!! Just talk to him about it some more. The more involved you are, and the more you know, the easier it is.
That’s kinda around the same where I started dating my boyfriend. I was 17, he was 20. (My parents didn’t let me start dating until he actually left. They’re weird. Lol) nobody knows how the course of your relationship will go. Most couples do last. You’ve been dating for two years, I don’t think some distance can conquer history together. Other couples however don’t last. But that could be for many other reasons. They were probably disfunctional to begin with. Or they start realizing things that they hadn’t noticed before. All these factors can happen if you guys were still dating in the same place. So, if I were you, I’d talk to your parents, let them know I’m serious about this and wish that they kept their comments to themselves. Because if anything their comments can possibly be filling your head with doubts. As for moving with him, I’d say its alittle too early for that. I’m 19 and never really considered moving with him until I turned 18. So there’s plenty of time for that in the future.
That happened to me a few times when my bf was in basic. I missed a couple phone calls and felt terrible and just comforted myself with the sound of his voicemail. It’s tough being an army gf. Sometimes he can’t tell you everything he’s doing. If you wish to come off anon and talk some more I’ll be here :)
Hello all!!
Well I’m a first time army girlfriend :) My best friend and I finally decided to try a relationship, unfortunately within two days of deciding this he’s leaving for his 9 month tour of duty in Afghanistan. I’m so nervous and sad, it’s very hard knowing that the person I love the most and who I finally just started this, is leaving for the first 9 months. Any tips to help us stay strong? How about keeping me grounded and not so lonely? I love him so much and want to be with him for as long as he’ll let me. I just would like the advice of any of you.
-Elise
See, we are not alone :)
Ooh!! Well, welcome :) theres tons of army SO’s over this site. All with different stories and great advice. And I bet you’re pretty excited to see your boo! That’s coming up pretty soon!! :) I wish you two the best of luck!
Heres another person you can follow ladies!
Well there’s plenty of ladies here that I’m sure would love to follow back and help cope with you!! :)
Its hard talking to my friends too. They don’t understand. But I’ve found a couple of new friends who do over this site!
My boyfriend is currently in ait and is almost done, but i just found that he’s going to be stationed in Korea for a year. i don’t know how I’m going to handle that. any advice?
Our story is magical. We went to High School together, lost touch for over 5 years, reconnected 3 months ago and now he is deployed in Afghanistan. Im desperate, he is out there in dangerous missions. I cant wait for him to return and start our lives together. We both want this so much. This is my first deployment… his 5th and last. im so scared, just wanted to reach out, express myself and share my story with all you ladies. We are all going through the same, and at times it does feel like im alone in this.
He wanted to do something meaningful with his life. Get outside of his daily routine, see what life was like outside of Florida, travel. Make us proud of him. (i mean we were always proud but you get the idea.)
Believe me, he will worry about you meeting someone you can be with in person too. If you both love each other very much, I’m sure nobody can replace the other. You’ve been together for a year! :) Distance cannot break away true love. I say support him and he should support you in college. Long distance sucks but it’s not impossible. Maybe once you finish college you can finally live with him. That’s what I’m doing with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for two years now. Been through basic, AIT, deployment, and still going strong. I wish I were with him and eventually I will be. So don’t give up. Think of this as preparing yourself for the future.
Every guy I liked before my boyfriend bored me eventually. But he didn’t. He was the one I always came back to. If your boyfriend really is perfect for you then what other guy out there can compare to him? None. Sure he wont always be around but if everything else about him is wonderful, I think you should give it a chance. Only you know how you feel about him. And you also know yourself. Yes it will be a struggle to date a guy in the army. And yes there are temptations for some of us but none of that is worth it. I guess if you think your not emotionally equipped for a relationship like this and you know in your heart that it wouldn’t work out in the end - then I’d end it now. Before making any decisions think about how that choice will affect you in a week, a month, 3 months, even a year from now. If you can’t see him in your future then I wouldn’t waste your time, nor his.
Hey everyone! I met a Army medic almost four months ago. The night We met it felt like We knew each other our whole life… We were insuperable the first three weeks and he got shipped off suddenly and couldn’t even tell Me he was going. We didn’t talk for a month and he finally got to text and call Me the middle of January and thought he would be home by my birthday on the 21st of January and I have not heard from him again since the 18 th of January. This has been so hard for Me. I really need someone to talk to and help Amex through this.
It sucks to find out that way.. :( Have you guys talked any more about it? If you two think you can handle it, I say go for it. Support his journey. You have 5 months left to make memories. But really it’s best to just talk about every aspect of it together.
You can do that cute “50 Reasons Why I Love You” thing with the deck of cards, writing every reason on each card. You can send him something that relates to his favorite movie, show, book, sport, etc. Maybe something that involves your favorite memory of each other, or reminds you of your first date. Pinterest has a lot of cute suggestions.
This is great! I love seeing girls reach out to other milSOs :D and I agree, although my friends mean well, they don’t truly understanwheat we’re going through.
