We Are Army Girlfriends


Submission from Mikaela!

I just found this blog and I felt the need to write. My boyfriend is in basic training in Fort Benning right now, he left January 13th. Yesterday he got to call me and talk for about 15 minutes! It was so great to hear his voice. He graduates May 2nd. Cannot wait to see him. I’m glad we can converse through letters, but it’s just so hard! Anyway, I really have enjoyed reading other posts and it’s nice to know I’m not the only one going through these emotions.(:

My fiancé has been in the field for a month but i was able to talk to him for a couple of weeks. But i always feel like he has forgot me or his feelings will change when he gets back. what should i do?


It’s understandable that you feel that way. However, sometimes that could be just worry. He probably has a lot on his mind, is exhausted, or kept busy. He is in the field, after all. Just take things one step at a time. I’m sure his feelings aren’t diminishing :) 

Hello ladies!!!

sorry that I have barely been on this! I’ve been busy with school andddd….

I recently became an army WIFE! I’ll continue running this blog, until I think it’s time to pass it on to another one of you army gf’s :) for now keep sending in submissions and questions!! I’ll be more than happy to help. Right now, I’ll be catching up & answering the ones that have been sitting here for quite a while :/ again sorry about that.

Have a blessed day!

- Jada

My boyfriend is in Basic and I am going to visit him for friends and family weekend in 2 months. I want to plan something special for him. Any suggestions on what to wear/ bring with me when I go see him? I want to surprise him because his birthday is the week before I will see him.


I’m sure anything he gets from you he’ll love! Just the fact that you took time out to get him something and show him you were thinking about is special enough. As for what you wear, cute and comfortable! If you wanna doll up for him go ahead. He’ll just be happy to see you. You can try to get away from the group one morning and treat him to some breakfast and then give him his gift. I never got to visit during basic so idk If it works like any other type of visit. Also, pictures! He’ll love to have pictures of you to look at while you guys are apart :)

Hello my name is Astrid and I'm new to becoming an army girlfriend. It's soo difficult but I know I can get through it, the only thing that I need help on is I haven't heard from my solider in over a month and he is currently in basic training so we would write letters but I never got one back. However he said he'd call me on the 27th or 28th. I don't know what to think...

Not to worry girl. When my bf was in basic sometimes I afraid he never got my letter or vice versa. Sometimes, they don’t always get to call when expected. They could’ve been put to do something else, or sometimes they’re given a very small amount of time to call. He could’ve just missed the window of opportunity. It happens :/ just hold on. Because when you do get that phone call or letter it’ll be amazing. I wish the best for the both of you!! ❤

Hard time

Hey guys, 

Sorry I have never done this before but I am in desperate need of a pick me up. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months almost and we have been best friends for the past two years. He’s in Afghanistan right now and will come back hopefully in 6 months. Anyways, I don’t know why but the past few days I just feel the pressure of being an army girlfriend more than ever before and it’s just hurting and part of me wants to give up and let go. I love him with all my heart and we planned on making this work for the long run. What should I do? I feel so helpless and weak at the moment.

Thank you!

I am so grateful to have found your blog. After two years I watched my boyfriend swear in and ship out a week ago. I've never been more proud of him. But it's hard and I miss him and you stare at the phone waiting for that call, and I'm so grateful to see that Im not alone in my feelings Im trying to learn how to cope with out him for the next 7 weeks and then his 3 year contract. (We are both 18 btw so yes we are young but we've lasted through crazy things I just hope we do the same with this)

I started dating my boyfriend when I was 17, and he was 20. I am turning 20 this year and we are still happily together. So the fact that you’re both 18 isn’t bad. Who cares if you’re young, if you find true love at that age; it’s the best!! :) Being an army girlfriend is a tough job! when he first left, I would cherish that one phone call I got every other weekend. And those letters. You guys are gonna look back at all you’ve been through and be stronger than ever. Those 7 weeks are gonna suck but it’s just gonna get you pumped up for the next time you guys see each other. We’ve all been through this. All our relationships are different but at the end of the day, we all manage to find something in common. We love our soldiers and hope for the best through this.

My Boyfriend is in Basic Training, and has been for about 2 months. We have been dating for a year and a half & before he left we talked 24/7. He has only had one phone call and it was really short...but he has been sending letters. Its just hard going from talking all the time to only letters. I was just wondering what I can do to keep me and my mind occupied?


It’s summer!! there’s tons of stuff to distract yourself with! :) my boyfriend left when I was in school so I was pretty occupied. But its summer, you can do whatever you want. Make him stuff, write him letters as well! You guys are gonna go back and reread those. I’m sure. Hang out with your friends, hang out with his family, it kinda feels like he’s there. Idk thats how I feel. lol Umm. Read. Take up a new hobby. I feel like I repeat myself when it comes to this question. So if anybody has any suggestions please feel free to add on! :)

does keeping yourself busy help with him being away


It does! Not too busy, he thinks you forgot about him. But enough, so that you’re not wallowing away in your bedroom. I mean hang out with your friends like normal. Pick up a new hobby. Make him care packages, make him gifts, make crafts in general. A lot of that stuff helps.

My boyfriend is leaving for basic training in august. We are both 18 and we have been dating for 4 years now. I love him more than anything but I am so scared of what will happen while hes gone. What if I can't handle it anymore?


4 years! It’s lovely to see young couples last so long :) well if you’ve been dating that long, I don’t think distance would ruin that. Just check out the pros and cons. Being an army SO isn’t for everybody but I’m sure you can do it!! Just talk to him about it some more. The more involved you are, and the more you know, the easier it is.